Originally Posted by
chero 
Well, I was wondering, would it still be the same for you (or anybody that wants to respond) if you A wasn't an ex??
chero, for me, yeah it would be the same.
in my opinion, a boundary is something you put up, saying "i won't tolerate THIS" and "i deserve better than THAT" and making a promise to yourself that you won't up with something you don't deserve. i would set up boundaries with absolutely anyone that i felt was being destructive towards me and my relationship with them, whether we were romantically involved or just friends.
your thread also made me wonder, would i put up the same boundaries if my ex wasn't an A. and the truth is, yeah, i think for now on i'm setting up boundaries in any kind of relationship i enter. there are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed, alcoholics or not, exes or not. by having in my head what my boundaries are, i'm able to stick with them and not feel anything for anyone once that line has been crossed.