This thread has been on my mind since you posted it. I've given it alot of thought and I've decided what thing I believe bothers me the most about being a codie - and is one thing that I still have issues with.
I take things (words, actions, etc) very personally if they come from someone that I care about.
Often times, I am told that I shouldn't take these things personally - as they aren't really personally. I just simply take them as such.