It is so hard for us to set boundaries when we love our kids so much. We think by taking their crap we are being a good mom, but we aren't. We are teaching them that we don't deserve better. Let him hit bottom. Walk away and let him become responsible. I know how hard this is as I have a 21 year old I am stillworking on this with. I have taken away my support/help a bit at a time. At first it was hard, but when I saw how my life got easier I saw the reason for it. I'd like to say that he stepped up to the plate, but he really hasn't. But you know, it IS his life, and if he screws up he has to deal with it. Our attempt to keep them from failing just prolongs the inevitable. Better to learn now when they are young than later. Baby steps at first. Good luck
krhea