Well ten days are required on the way to 20 and 40 days, on to 10 years and twenty years. We stay while we have faith, we go when THEY spend our faith. All accounts require deposits. Isn't that true? Those who stay through the disappointsments have deposits of faith and hope sprinkled along the trip. If we come to a lack of faith, it isn't a reflection of us, it is a reflection of them. I love that old saying that says, "To see a mans true character, look into his wifes eyes". We as wives (or husbands, mothers, fathers, girlfriends etc) are the evidence of how they live their lives. Is there light in our eyes? Is there a spring in our step? Without that distraction of their drinking, there is the dreaded time to face what? There is a black hole.
So.....let's fill it with praise and applause for them.
Everything is oaky dokey for them. They drank enough that they don't remember most of what they said and did. It is incredibaly offensive that they think we don't. How do you regret what you don't remember?
Oh, there is an aweful lot to think about when they quit drinking,
Here's the kicker, the only thing that ticks you off worse is if they start drinking again. It is a real mess isn't it?