anyone incoherant and threatening suicide needs to be hospitalized in the psych ward to detox-then from there to a inpatient rehab--its not always all about us--you have to do the right thing as a person on this planet--he is sick he should be in a hospital--next time he calls that way--find out where he is and call 911 and tell them he is a suicidal alcoholic--they will pick him up and bring hime to the ER where if he needs it he can be sectioned for a few weeks