I am there right where you all are too. I miss my ex so very very much and he is married to the bar hooch that he left us for...I wont ever find out the answers to all the questions that I have and that I think is so much of the pain involved..I guess even if I did get answers it wouldnt make me feel any better but like the rest of you I thought my life and my marriage was on solid ground and I thought I was in the drivers seat....it hurts when betrayal is in the mix and the abandonment is no picnic either...I just have to believe that what goes around comes around....and I for one would love to hear some stories where the karma bus has smacked them right between the eyes...