For my part, I learned how to live a better life and find happiness by reprograming my mind.
I lived in chaos as a child, and I continued the acceptance of insanity well into my 50's. I just didn't understand that there was a better way. Then I really focused on me and my recovery from codependency, one baby step at a time.
Not easy, but doable with the right mindset and determination. If a person can start forcusing on themselves and not let the "others" take up so much of their space, then they start to heal, and are ready to jump feet first into their recovery.
I will be in recovery from codependendcy the rest of my life, I still have to stop myself from wanting to try and save everyone else, and put myself first.
Each day, I get stronger and am finding more happiness and peace.