I noticed the same think "wayconfused" said. Every time I went anywhere fun, it seemed to panic my a. I came to believe, that he was worried, that I might just start doing some of the things HE was up to, and he couldn’t stand the thought of that. (After all, he DID know what HE would do, if he was out without ME!).
Manipulation at it’s extreme, in your case, I suspect.
JSM