Thanks to all of you. It must be part of my codie nature... to second guess myself when someone else comments on something I am doing that might be a bit anti-codie in nature!
Heather, I had to laugh... I've used that exact post more than once myself, both online here and in face to face meetings. I guess I should have pulled it out and read it !
I've never HAD a healthy relationship, at least to the best of my knowledge... so I have worked very hard to change behaviors, beliefs, expectations etc. On the surface, New Guy is different from my previous signficant others. I am learning it will take time to discover whether or not he's really just the same guy again in different skin.
Time takes time. And in the meantime, I am going to continue to nurture my indepedendence.
Thanks for being my consultants.
~ Cat