Some thoughts.
"I layed some boundaries out to my daughter and her boyfriend the other day. "
I'm not sure what boundaries you were setting, but boundaries aren't boundaries unless there are consequences when they are violated. (I can talk this talk a lot better than I can walk the walk, believe me.)
It sounds to me like you were doing a bunch of caretaking by staying up to watch a football game you didn't want to see to try to avoid a blow-up you couldn't control. No wonder you blew up...you were completely drawn in rather than being detached.
It also sounds like the boundary you want to draw is the old "No drinking in my house" one. Will your husband back you up on that? Are you worried that your daughter will move out if you insist?