Teke - no way, your advice is great. I should definitely consider whether or not I need to jump in to anything at all right now, and perhaps not focus so much on what I need to do or say to get this guy's attention.
It is all about balance. If I am going to try and hang out with someone new, I need to be constantly reminded of that, or things will get out of whack again. I really appreciate your comments - you are right on, girl.