Inlove...
Welcome to SR!! I am so glad you found this site.
The addict in my life is my exhusband.
He didn't start using heroin until after we had been married for several years and had a little boy together.
I used to be so naive about addiction. I only wish I had discovered this site years ago.
As everyone says...You are the only one who can decide what to do.
The only thing I might share...is what I have learned about addiction...
It is a life-long disease. Your bf relapsed after 3 years of being clean (at least thats what he's telling you). Sadly, someone in active addiction will tell us just about anything. Do you really know how long he's been clean?
If you continue this relationship you need to know that addiction will always play a role in it. Always. Addicts are never 'cured'. The possiblity of relapse is always there...and the consequences are incredibly harmful to both the addict and those who love them.
Thats alot of baggage to knowingly take into a new relationship. An awful lot of baggage.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope you will stick around. I'm glad you joined us...