Thank You!
I Want to thank you all for your great insight and advice. It has been VERY helpful. After reading your posts and talking with my friends I think that we will put the alchohol to rest for a while and try to find some non-drinking things to do. I think Golfman put it best with the lung cancer analogy. Then maybe after he becomes more confident and stable, start bringing him back into situations where there is drinking going on.
On another note I mentioned that all of his friends and family drink. I'm thinking that maybe I'll be the first one that doesn't.