Tough one. Some have one relapse & then get back on track & get long-term clean time. Others, this is the beginning of a pattern. 1st thing for you to do is get to your OWN meetings. I could never be either one of my ex's sponsors nor should you try. If you are NOT an addict, you can't think like one. I've known a lot of great people who are in the program & have 5+ years clean. I know those who have relapsed & got back on track. I have been with a man who had 6 years, relapsed & never has gotten it back again. And I finally realized I couldn't take the pain anymore. Bottom line....nobody can tell you what to do. All we can do is share our experience, strength & hope.