Probably Shouldn't Post in the Wee Hours . . .
I'm looking over this one and another "big speech" I gave on another thread, and I started thinking . . . I was really happy about this one (which came first) since it was pretty upbeat; the other was a whole lot more thrusting, angry, and--gasp--just a tad judgemental and self-righteous (dang, gotta figure out these emoticons; put a wink ;-) after that one, okay).
I'll blame part of it on the gomboo that had me up in the night hacking with chills and heading straight for the Tylenol, Advil, and alcohol-free Robutussin DM . . .
Anyway, after re-reading, what struck me as incomplete about my reply above was I failed to acknowledge that it is a legitimate part of the "grieving" process to focus on the alcoholic "other," and I don't think anyone has a right to "take that away" from someone . . .
Thus, I think it's important to validate what's going on with those caught up in the disease's maelstrom, and yet the message to "put the focus on ourselves" is equally valid . . .
'Nuff . . .