Awesome replies to this!! Everyone has great points. Thank you Glassprisoner, I love getting the answers straight from you alcoholics that we are baffled with!
I was thinking too, that many of us struggle with our codependency even when our A is gone. Our behavior follows us, we got so used to that way of life, we struggle to fix it. Maybe that is the same for alcoholism? My A is still a butt. He knows better, but has been that way so long that even sober he still acts like that, only on a milder level and he is more apt to apologize right away for his crap because now he can see it is wrong, it is like it is a habit to be that way. What do you think?