Also called "White Knuckle Sobriety". Is he working a program...or just NOT using. Earlier sobriety is tough, but it sounds like there is no change in his behavior. I agree that most likely when he can find a way to do it, he will start using again. We call it a geographic cure. And it usually doesn't work unless it's for the right reasons. That also could account for the anger. He WANTS to use. And he "can't". So he'll take it out on you. I think couples counseling sounds like a great idea, if he'll do it. Part of recovery is also making "amends". I don't hear amends there....I hear "get over it".
Lynne