Thank you for the replies.
No he isn't using and he can't with this new job. He knows words hurt me and he is very good at throwing the words around that will hurt me.
Sometimes I think it is me - maybe there has just been too much that happen in the past that I can't forgive him for it. I think he just expects me to start fresh and forget it. Maybe I should - or I just don't have it in me anymore to try.