i have and when i got there, my decision was to just holler red rock, i give up. i stop talking and started doing, just like you seem to be doing. its like it goes in one ear and out the other, whats the use.
it took for me to say all those things that you wanted to say, don't know if it was the right thing to do, but it made me feel better and helped me in my own way, to get on with living. i thought, at least he can't say that he didn't know how i felt and why, even though i knew that no matter what i said, that it wouldn't make a difference until he was ready to do something for himself, just because he was ready.