Well Moot,
I'm not going to give you any 3D flack, LOL, but from a woman's perspective I can somewhat relate. I do not suffer from bi-polar though, but at times it seems like the smallest things can irritate me. I don't know if it's a hormonal thing or what. I do try however to take it out on my mate, but it does happen. I can empathize with you, but I can also empathize with her.
Communication really is the key in a good relationship, and both people need to work at it. It isn't always easy. Also moving is a very stressful thing. I know, I just went through it. Now that i'm getting settled in though I'm feeling calmer.
Hopefully she will settle down too. Feel free to come here and vent any time, no judgment calls here.
Juls