Originally Posted by aGrandma

My AH has an alcohol dependency to the tune of 12 beers a day.
He is a really nice person, a good father, a good neighbor, a good employee. He doesn't lie or cheat or steal. He doesn't waste money and he helps around the house. We get along great.
But alcohol is destroying his health and he is getting depressed and moody.
He says he drinks because he is in pain from an injury. I believe him. (So I am codependent?) He says his drugs from the doctor don't help. Only beer does.
We are going to the doctor to discuss his pain medications and will tell him of the alcohol dependence. Is this the right thing to do? I hope so!
And he will begin seeing a therapist who specializes in drug and alcohol dependence. Next week.
Have any of you had a similar experience? What happened? Can you offer me any advice or hope?
So many people say really bad things about their alcoholic spouse. I don't have anything bad to say other than he gets drunk every day. But he goes to work every day and hides it very well....but he is sad and sick!