Prettywoman,
Yes there are the tools of recovery available to those who WANT them. Your ex at this point in time does not and there really is nothing you can say or do to change that.
What you CAN change however is you. By focussing on you, by working a program you can achieve miracles.
By continuing to focus on you, you are disempowering yourself and not moving on with your life. Your baby needs you to be healthy and available.
It took me a long time (years) to accept the fact that my ex does not want to get well. All my wishing, manipulating in the world would never have changed that, he simply doesn't want it he sees nothing wrong. His illness still works for him so there is nothing to change. I'm a million times happier now that I'm out of it.
Ngaire