Originally Posted by
Noah812 
If, in the past, you put him through half of what my xagf did, he is probably thinking now he has lost control of his household. Maybe he feels you don't listen or follow through with what the two of you discuss? I would also say never again. I am sure you discussed this with him and you both agreed there would be no driving. It feels to me he is reacting due to your past and your actions and consequences to him. He probably is just loosing it to the chaos caused before and afterwards of your using. Actually I got really worn out working a job and doing the right thing only to have the XAGF continuously cause me pain in addcition chaos. It was for me as if I could not even get my head above water before the ex A was shoving it back under with her problems, chance taking and consequences. In your case I feel the circumstances are very diffrent but I think Paul is grouping all the bad together as a continuance of disregard for the law. Give him time but try and explain your thoughts and feelings of being overwhelmed and had to make a choice. .
This is it exactly. He knows the consequences of if I am caught. They will revoke my probation, and I will be serving a prison sentance. He sees my actions as my old addict behavior and that is why he is so angry.
He is also angry with my inability to be more dependant on myself instead of others. He isnt all that far off really there. Im a grown woman and I should be working full time, contributing to the household, and be here on a daily basis to be a better help with kids. INstead I have jail every weekend, more trouble coming from past still, I work only 1 day a week, and depend on him to take me everywhere I need to go. I see his fustration. He wants better. This is part of the reason to sell this house and move. There are and have been no job opportunities where I live. Its a tiny community. We live far enough out of town that everywhere is a 30 minute commute just to work anywhere.
I still dont know what he wants as far as me moving somewhere else. His attitude was alot easier last night. No fighting or arguing. He did go to bed by himself as I was exhausted and fell asleep cuddling with the baby on the couch. I didnt hear him go to bed or anything. This morning, well, let me say he's not a morning person and I'd rather hide in a closet than have to see him in the morning. So grouchy. I always pretend to be doing something in a nother room when he first gets up. I dont know. He did leave my phone this morning. He even made an effort in talking to me about mundane things last night. He was still crabby and grouchy, but livable.
I still dont know whats to happen yet. I have to go into jail this weekend. I dont think he is the frame of mind to really talk about whether Im staying with him or moving seprately.