I didn't want to go to AA. It was the last thing I tried, the last house on the block.
It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Being that Alanon also works the 12 steps, I can't see how it could do anything but help. Plus the fact that there are those just like you there, plus the fellowship.....
Many As in the program go to Alanon. Others have spouses that go. They all have blessed marriages. Even the ones where one partner is still using, Alanon helps.