My boyfriend is a good man, too. He doesn't lie to me (other than about his drinking), he doesn't steal, he doesn't cheat on me. He rarely raises his voice to me and helps around the house. He's a great guy who checks out of life every day with a bottle of booze. I didn't have a problem with his drinking until it began to take a toll on his health. Then I panicked and begged and pleaded with him to stop drinking. When that didn't work, I resorted to control and manipulation. I poured out his booze, kept tabs on how much he drank, asked his friends and coworkers to stop offering him alcohol, forced him to see a doctor, forced him to go to AA.
My co-dependent traits didn't show up until his drinking began to affect my sanity. I lived in fear of losing him. To learn more about what co-dependency is, pick up a copy of the following book:
"Codependent No More" by Melodee Beatty. I'm sure you'll see a lot of yourself within those pages. I know I did.