I DON'T want a divorce. I am the one who filed because he chose to move out and continue popping pills. If he would have moved out and said he realized he made a mistake and wanted to get sober (again), then I would still not want him living with us "until" at least 6 months of sobriety had passed. But as of this date, he now has spiraled so far down that he is actually rationalizing popping pills! We've been around the block a million times with this. See previous posts of mine. So I have a questions here. I have said it over and over, if I DON'T WANT TO BE DIVORCED and he is just passively standing by just waiting for the chips (pills) to fall, then should I put the hearing off and tell him I'm doing so? Really. I want some opinions here. I can put it off up until a year from the date of filing (January 25). If he's not actively seeking recovery, then why should I put it off? I'm not being sarcastic. I really want to get some opinions. Thanks!