The "date" is a person with whom I've known for a long time. I guess I'm safe here to say it's totally platonic. I live in a small area and word gets around. I wanted hubby to know in case it got back to him, and to let him know he's letting me slip away. I never imagined myself in this position. Who would? Now I have to deal with the reality that RIGHT NOW, or maybe never he just isn't interested in being sober. Life goes on, with or without the addict.