Thank you everyone.
I don't attend meetings as there are absolutely none in my area, but do have some books that I've been reading.
I don't have any expectations of RAh aside from expecting that I be treated with respect. That I'm not going to change, and don't feel that I should.
Give Love - You are right on. I will not let go of the resentments, until I see a sign of change in him. I will not sit back and continuosly lower my standards and be emotionally drained repeatedly, I'm not that kind of person.