Thanks guys! I sure hate that word detatchment! I wish I could detatch from the situation. My AH tells me all the time he doesn't drink or not drink because of anything I say or don't say. He says he drinks because he can. I hate that because I know he's right. I want my love for him to be enough. I heard it isn't about him loving me or not but it's about him having an illness. It's so hard to think of it like a disease, though, because my thoughts on it are you're sober when you bought it. But somebody at SR told me he wasn't sober he was dry. I'm not even sure what that means but I can kinda figure it out...it's like a craving?? I don't know! Actually, I don't care if he is sober or dry....just stop drinking!
Okay, deep breath...I'm off to read the stickies! Thanks again! I'll take any advice I can get! I hate being manipulative because I know it doesn't work.