We are human, remember, "Prorogress not perfection""
I get confused about words, manipulation? I believe there is good manipulation, all depends on if trying to get my way for my reasons, and not to be of help to others??
You will learn in time, and only you know what is acceptable.
If we give the A's an inch they think everything is all OK.
You are fine, don't accept guilt from you or anyone if not quilty.
Things pop out, if not planned and rehearsed, then that is just life.
Just my thoughts.
Do? Just accept he will do whatever he will do. Do you want to stay if things remain like this?
He evidently has no problem with alcohol. He sees no need for him to change.
If no problem with violence, you can stay if you can accept that this is how it is.
We can take it one day at a time and practice and think of what we want.
Make any sense? If not pay no attention.