itiswhat.....What do I say to her well, I use to try the how can you do this to your son, don't you ever stop an think of him he needs his Mommy... if you won't stop using for yourself do it for him...I would point out what a great kid he is..Tell her she should be putting him first in her life instead of her drugs an druggie friends. Even ask her once why don't you love your son enough to stop doing this crap..But none of it worked so I really have know answers for you. But I do understand what your feeling it makes me sick to think my daughter could be so unfeeling an uncaring toward her own child.. Only advice I have is try not to focus to much on why or how she could do this to her children..but do what your doing love an care for the kids...an pray their mother gets help. As I said before the kids are lucky they have you.