Sounds very familiar. I'd say he's relapsed, or is for sure on the verge of. When they start making excuses and start minimizing the importance of meetings, counseling sessions, etc. Relapse isn't far behind. The statement of "not being court ordered..." is also a sign. People who are in recovery go to meetings not because they NEED them, but because they WANT them. Therefore, being court ordered shouldn't matter. Stick to your guns. Good luck!