I know I have said this before, but it isn't the not knowing that makes me crazy....it is the need to know. When I need to know about someone else, I am not focused on myself and my own life and my own business.
I know what addicts do. I know what addicts are. When I dig around in their business......just because I "want to know the truth"..... I am just going to find out things that will make ME feel bad. It is really self-defeating behavior.
I say, "Mind your own business, Babs!" a thousand times a day. It is really, really hard for me to do, but the better I get at it, the better I seem to feel about myself.
Try to recognize the habit for what it is.....Your ego's attempt to keep you down and make you feel worthless for caring for someone who is unworthy.
((Hugs))
Babs