welcome to S.R., you are among people who have been there & care about you & the addict.my addict is also my son. it is hard to let go of them but i am finding it is best for him & especilly me. there is nothing we can do for our addict children.paying courts & lawyers is just giving them more time to use. they will use until they hit there bottom & do not want it any more, in there time only.i paid for 12 yrs. & he is still doing the same things. read around & keep coming back.prayers, hope