(((Sophia57)))
Maybe he is just going thru some mid-life crisis and is a little depressed, which is a little dangerous with a recovery alcoholic, it may set them up for a relapse. Think about what you said about him being 51, his job (and how he hates it), crises and problems, his 14 year old's mother, etc. That's a lot on someone's plate, especially for a recovery alcoholic. Maybe that's why he feels like "running away". I'm not going to say "sounds llike he's on his way to a relapse" because anything is or is not possible, but stick to your boundaries and try to work on you.
QT