I am confused. My husband is an alcoholic, though will not admit it. Hit a crisis in our 18 year marriage 2 years ago when twins left for college. Much anger built up over the years were focused at me. I went for counseling, felt totally at fault and depressed and learned that I was living with an alcoholic. I should say that he is a very high functioning alcoholic, very good job. Here two years later same thing. We are about to embark on marriage counseling, but with alcohol in the picture is this worthwhile. Last several days for him, no drinking and me too, I am not an alcoholic but probably when emotionally upset, even 1 or 2 glasses of wine put me in a bad state. Hope for the best, we are committed but think he wants excitement, Can provide excitement we have a lot of fun together but am fearful that his expectations due to alcohcol have become do distorted that we will not be able to reconcile his feelings.