thank you all so much
You really have helped me greatly. I don't know why, but it never occured to me to apply ODAT to my marriage commitment. I gues sit just sounds odd when in relation to the concept of vows.
But truthfully, I am really comfortable with that idea. I like it. I am going to discuss it with my AH tonight. I will accept that we are together, and I will stay with the marriage, but we both will understand we are in a ODAT world. He knows all about ODAT from his program, so there won't be any explaining necessary.
Thanks! I am feeling much better all of a sudden.