Originally Posted by
embraced2000 
that's my point....about the deep love for our husbands. it's just as deep as for my children, but yet i rid him from my life because of his behaviors, yet i would not do the same to my children.
i can't imagine how this would effect me if it were my child being the addict, and i pray to god i never have to find out.
course, i would not let my children run roughshod over me, either, or try to control my life with the insanity of addiction.
i'm just thinking out loud here....trying to sort through some stuff.
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Detaching does not mean to cease loving. Your children are not (and hopefully, will never be) poisonous to you. I'm sure we all know heartbreaking stories about mothers struggling with addict children..who will steal, lie and make lives generally miserable for their parents. There comes a time when all are counselled to close the door on the addicts' needs as a form of truly loving.
Geri..if your ex came back to you professing he wanted to be sober and was going into detox...would you close the door?