It isn't about forgiveness, forgetting, unconditional love, etc. for me. Honoring my god given life is what it is about. Loving someone and allowing them to control my life are two different concepts.
I personally have moved on from life with AH. Doesn't mean I didn't and don't love. Deeply.
I'm not sure who thinks it's easier to rid oneself of a spouse. It broke my heart. And now my heart is healing.