Welcome to Soberrecovery!
Where do you start? There are powerposts at the top of both anon forums plus a reading list. Thise are books that we have all gotten alot out of...not required reading at all.
Melody Beattie is an author we tend to refer to alot.
Find a local meeting and attend...you will find lot of ladies just like you.
And...let us know how you are. I find that this message board helps alot to keep me centered.
Good luck to you!
JT