Purplereign what I found helped me the most in feeling like I belonged in AA was to focus not on the differences between me and every one else there, but in what we had in common!
Focus on what you have in common with others. When I started to do that suddenly I realized that there was no age, beleif, race, or gender differences, we all were alcoholics who were there to stay sober and be happy doing it. One thing that made a huge difference for me was a sponsor, the other was a network of folks to just call and BS with.