I like this post domelia. You are doing a good job. Take care of you and the kids and go have a nice dinner too. I am with an on-line al-anon group. One night I thought AH was not home and before i knew it he was behind me at the computer and I was on-line with al-anon. Well, after he thought I was having a secret relationship with someone which I explained I was not. I explained it was my al-anon group. He looked perplexed. He did not speak and when he did he did not condemn but said isn't that about alcoholics and I said no it is about me. Two days later he asked about it again. I said I do this for me. He never asked or commented again. So I was outed but it was interesting. Irsh