I bet you thought of LOTS of good things to say, later. My situation is different- he never says anything to put me down(verbally, anyway) When I do yell at him, he just listens, and tries to make a joke ..However, everything I say to him I have said SSSOOOO many times before. It doesn't sink in, and is ignored(forgotten??) One time, I started banging my head against the wall(not hard!!) to illustrate what it was like talking to him.