I have thought about attending meetings.
Mom and I actually had a long talk the other night about all of this. We are VERY close and I think that is why it hurts so much. She didn't show signs of being an alcoholic until I was in college so unlike many others I had a wonderful childhood and got to know my mom.
About the meetings though, I told her that if I go to something like that it makes it seem as if her being in this state is a permanent thing. My exact statement to her was I don't want to learn coping techniques for a sitaution I am hoping won't be around forever. I know it doesn't make much sense but it is so hard to think that she could never get "better"
Not sure if that all makes sense.