My mother is an alcoholic. Has been one for 60 years, never stopped drinking one day the entire time.
I cut contact off with her twice, once for 4 years, once for 10 years. The last time I did, I never thought I would see her again. I was wrong, she called me Thanksgiving of 2003, we set the past aside.
However, I set clear bounderies with her, if she crosses them I advise her she has, and like Elvis, I leave the stage.
I never imagined she would live as long as she has...she turns 81 next month.
The years I was not in communication with her were the most peaceful of my life. I made a choice, due to her age to reconcile with her, it was a hard decision to make and has been difficult at best.
My Best,
Dolly