JT, bless your heart
(and bless the little Beavette's heart too). It sounds like you are offering the Beav all the right kind of help, without enabling him. Somebody pass the tiara to JT. I think she deserves something pretty and sparkly on her head at the moment.
Peace,
Gabe
NOTE TO TIARA LOVERS: My sister's store is currently selling tiaras with a battery pack that have *GASP* flashing sparkly lights on them. Bless me Father, I think I have "tiara envy".