Thanks all for your support, it is most appreciated, well after beginning to wonder whether he had started to clean up his act - buying a house etc, he's been since since 27th december. Shows how naive i can be i guess.
Why can't e just wake up anad this whole nightmare will be over, for the moment he haas a agood job and two nice cars, one of which the companay pays for! Why can he not see that he stands to lose them all - me included! I can't cry anmore and i'm barely eating just smoking myself silly which isn't any better for me than he is right now.