Originally Posted by
jimhere 
Amen to the above. You got into the relationship and if you stay in, it is your problem, not his.
But you are not responsible for him, his alcoholism, his recovery or sickness. Nor are you responsible for anyone else's happiness.
But if i don't stay, and he gets worse && then blames it all on me (again) how do i NOT let that get to me?
Originally Posted by
jimhere It is not selfish to live your life to please yourself. It is selfish to expect others to live their lives to please you.
Jim
But in all honesty, i dont think anyone will ever be able to please me. I know that sounds weird, but to me i am too complicated to be pleased && I can't even please me. So i focus on pleasing others cause it gives me a bit of satifaction that i don't feel by making myself happy or letting others make me happy.