(((losinghim))) Hi. Glad you are here and posting! It helps you and it helps the rest of us,too.
Have you read the "Getting Them Sober" books? Lots of practical advice about the things you are dealing with and considering. You can read a few "preview" chapters (free!) online at
http://GettingThemSober.com They have really been a help to me and you might find them helpful,too.
Keep posting! and good luck to you.