I feel for you. As I said when my AH went to rehab this last time, there's no cure for a**hole. Lack of drinking doesn't change who they are generally. And maybe consider that he is such a miserable person right now b/c he is resentful to you and to everyone else b/c he isn't drinking. Even between drunken days, my AH was miserable and angry b/c he wasn't drinking. At family functions, he was horrible b/c he would rather be drinking.